Marriage

 

It dates back to year 2013 when I got married.  Marriage came as a huge shock in my life.  It changed so many things, my place of living, where I had spent good 30 years of my life, my job of 4 years.  Over all these years I had dedicated places for looking after my wardrobe, daily needs and beauty requirement almost anything you can imagine.  Leaving all behind I had to move to a different city.  On the top of it even after almost a year of courtship I never felt much familiar with my then fiancé (now husband).

It was very tough for me to adjust in a joint family. Having lived a very independent life before, I wasn’t accustomed to such a family setup. There was dominance and ego tussles. Time went by; I was living almost a lost life. A weak bond with husband, our marriage started showing signs of detachment. 

Well so is life, gradually with much perseverance of my husband and willingness on my part eventually things started falling into the right place. And now there is happiness, moments of sadness, care, share, faith, love, oneness and commitment.  

I really feel strange when people ridicule the institution of marriage. I really abhor cheap jokes taunted at married couples. Though some are light hearted and funny enough but some are too insulting.  I find marriage is something really sacred and pious.  The partners complete each other. Yes, there are moments of frustration and stress, there is much dissimilarity of attitudes but you have to find a way out. You have to make peace and it is possible only when both sides are willing.  Continuous nudging, poking and nagging each other will never help.  Acceptance, communication and love will make this bond strong. Couples need to have very realistic expectations from each other and never let ego come in between. 

And as per the old saying

Never marry for looks as they may be deceptive,

Never marry for wealth as it is perishable,

Never marry just for sake of it as life will crumble,

Marry only when you are willing to commit yourself to a roller coaster life full of many mixed emotions like love, togetherness, intimacy, lowness, sadness, friendship, worry, anxiety and affection.

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